Brad Griffin led the session and he works at Fuller Youth Ministry Institute alongside Kara Powell. Here are my notes from his season on reimagining Senior Sunday. 1 in 2 graduates drift from faith after graduation. 4 out of 5 intended to “cross well” – they intended to stay with their faith. At the precise moment graduates need the support of community the most – when they are making significant life decisions – we rip it away from them. Research about graduates: Only 1 in 7 students leave our youth groups feeling prepared The preparation they get in churches is too little too late. The #1 advice graduates would give a youth leader is to prepare us better. Thread that runs through preparation…the kinds of questions they are asking:
- Identity: Who am I? (False answer: Shame; Real answer: Grace)
- Belonging: Where do I fit? (False answer: conditional acceptance; Real answer: Love)
- Purpose: What difference do I make? (False answer: self-fulfillment; Real answer: Mission)
- An earlier Starting Point
- Start at least the beginning of senior year
- 9 months out – what’s next?
- 6 months out – connecting students with adults outside of youth ministry
- 5-3 months out – family communication about transition and dates
- 2 months out – pre-pst graduation planning
- 6 weeks out – Face to Face parent training
- 4 weeks out – Host graduation event before the craziness of graduation begins!
- More conversations, more relevant topics
- Finding a faith community and making friends
- Deciding about parities…especially the 1st 2 weeks. They set the trajectory for the next 4 years. They are open to spiritual conversations
- Managing time and monty – big stress the 1st year
- Handling emerging doubts – doubts happen (70% say they have significant doubts u t only 25% expressed them). It’s not doubt that’s toxic to faith – it’s silence. You can answer if you don’t know the answer by saying, “I don’t know but…” and find out.
- Navigating changing relationships with parents, friends and leaders. Give them expectations on what the next step looks like
- Practical skills – teach them life skills before they go to college (i.e. doing laundry)
- New ideas for family graduation dinner
- Help parents think through that
- Give them leads
- Connect them to campus ministries before they go so they have an immediate connection at school
- Stay in touch
- Dn’t drop them once they go off to college. Stay in touch with them. Text them, send them care packages and connect them with other adults at your church
- Consider 4+1
- This about that transition year intentionally
- What’s the 1 number they can always call at any time?
- What’s the 1 relationship where they never have to lie
- How will you respond when they fail?
- Think through that question
- How we respond in those moments can be a GAMECHANGER!
This was such a great breakout! So helpful with practical next steps. Thank you for capturing notes!
Thanks Corey! I just ordered the book, “Growing Young” today! Can’t wait to read it.